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Like I tol' you last night, babe- Your aunt means well somewhere in that Beck heart of hers, but she needs to STEP OFF.


Oh no she di-int!


I agree with your (first) husband.


Well, I can't imagine that your mother's guilt gift came out of a vacuum. And calling your aunt on it is not a sin. If I strain really hard, I can work up a tiny mote of comprehension of your mother's behavior, because she is the one who is dying. Your aunt, however, has no excuse, even if you want to make one for her. And it's okay to tell her that. I agree with your husband and Linda. So there.


Okay, trying to ease her own guilt by laying it on you is out-of-line and I concur with husband on this, she needs to STEP OFF. You don't, nor does anyone else in the family, need that kind of crap at this moment in time. You have lives that need to be lived and you can't be made into feeling guilty for doing what you need to do for you. Four for four on this one.


Please understand me when I say this because I mean it: I never said that her guilt-trip laying was acceptable in the least. And I don't really think that I'm making an excuse for her behavior either; I'm just giving her the benefit of the doubt in what is a stressful situation for everyone involved.

This is so convoluted... Let me start over.

What I'm trying to say is thank you for all of your support and I'm not turning that support away. I need it. However, my first tendency is to immediately fly off the handle and be HIGHLY upset about family slights, perceived or otherwise. I can't afford to invest time being overly upset at every little thing when it's certain that slights of all sizes are coming (count on that, dear readers), and this is definitely one of the lessers that will float my way in the near future. Ultimately, I'm viewing it as "slight sorting", and I'm deciding to believe the best that I can of my aunt in this particular situation, given the fact that she's been with my mother four days straight without taking a break. And that's no mean feat, I know.

That's not to say that she didn't hurt my feelings or that I find her behavior acceptable.

In summation, I will use the phrase Bill has been driving me insane with the last few days because it has finally made it into his lexicon: My aunt is on the bubble.

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